Updated: Jan 18
Our emotions can be incredibly powerful....especially if we are emotionally defined and are unaware of this definition within ourselves.
How do I know if I am emotionally defined?
I will have a link at the bottom of this article where you can go to see if you are one of the 50% of people who are emotionally defined according to your Human Design.
What does it mean to be emotionally defined?
~ On the surface, it means that when you look at your Human Design Chart that you have the solar plexus colored in.
Beneath the surface it means that you undergo an emotional wave that can take you to the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. 1 in 2 people have their Solar Plexus defined and from my experience it's one of the most necessary pieces of ourselves to bring into our consciousness.
Without conscious awareness of this aspect of ourselves, we end up wreaking havoc on most if not all of our relationships and it's hard to trust ourselves because what we feel is so incredibly powerful and we are afraid of that power. A person will either project this outward, or turn it completely inward at both extremes, but most of us who are emotionally defined have probably swung between both ends of the spectrum.
Neither extreme feels good and what I have found within myself and my emotionally defined clients that I work with is that until this becomes conscious, one feels that there is something deeply wrong with them and that they are often a victim of their emotions.
The mind will try to do everything it can do to make 'sense' of why the emotionally defined person feels the way they do. Most often they cannot find a reason and that can drive a person pretty batty....and then the danger is trying to control the emotional wave and look for an outward reason why the low or the high is being felt.
I had spent a good portion of my life wondering what was 'wrong' with me. I knew that if I had told a doctor what my emotional highs and lows felt like, that I would be prescribed medication and most likely be labeled with Manic Depressive Disorder or something similar.
The day that I had my first Human Design reading, which was June of 2018 was a major turning point in my life. I finally felt like nothing was 'wrong' with me. A HUGE weight was lifted and I knew that all I had to do was to become aware of it and that I could learn to navigate my emotional wave.
I learned that people who are emotionally defined are deeply creative and passionate people and that there is a mutation happening within them during the wave. I learned that by supporting myself with the things that I love, like playing music, painting, writing, moving my body that I could navigate through this space in me that needed to be felt and seen. It was through this process that I learned what it truly meant to be able to hold space for myself.
I started paying attention to my wave and tracking it in the summer of 2018. I realized that my wave would happen within a week before my cycle and that the day that I started my cycle is usually when I could feel the low part of my wave start to lift. sidenote: I started questioning the whole gnosis of PMS through this and wondered if society has just smacked yet another label on something that we have to 'treat' or 'fix'.
Anyhoo, after quite a while of paying attention and embracing my wave vs. resisting and being afraid of it, I started to notice a shift in how I experienced it. I was no longer going to the utter depths of hell within the lows....and I was able to stay more consistent in my everyday routine. Before this, my low lows would take me down with it and I would avoid life for about 3-4 days during this time, as everything seemed so dark and dreary and I was ready to abandon and quit everything.
A few months ago I had a dream that I was standing on a beach and I noticed ahead of me this HUGE....and I mean HUGE wave that was coming right towards me, it was probably at least 30 feet tall. For just a moment, I remember gasping and holding my breath....and then I just relaxed into it. I noticed it, I didn't run from it, I stood there and it passed right through me....and I was left standing where I was. This happened two more times in my dream for a total of three waves. The next morning when I woke up, I had started my monthly cycle.
Using a tool like Human Design or Astrology allows us to give ourselves permission to be ourselves....like nothing I've ever experienced. Life is truly happening with us and when we can learn to accept ourselves, all of the nuances and little things that we tend to hide from others (and ourselves) we start to see life unfolding in a whole new and magical way.
Everything that we experience is for us to experience ourselves in the deepest and most intimate of ways. We become one with ourselves so that we can become one with life and all that it has for us.
I embrace my wave now and nurture myself through it.....I have learned to navigate it, and stay standing as it passes through me vs. being swept away and knocked down by it.
Are you emotionally defined?
If you are, this is where your decisions are made. Without the awareness of the rhythm of the wave a person will make decisions in the high end or the low end of the wave. When a person does that, they will usually later on, regret the decision they made because the wave is in constant motion. The wisdom in this is to wait to make a decision until you are out of the high and the low....where it feels neutral and there is no longer any nervous energy wrapping around the decision. This takes practice but it's essential as an emotional being to learn how to navigate the decision making process and the wave.
Here is the site to learn if you are emotionally defined....remember the Solar Plexus will be colored in. The Solar Plexus is the sideways triangle towards the bottom right of your chart.
We learn to love and accept ourselves when we start to know ourselves....too often we think we know ourselves but it's just the conditioning that we have gotten to know. Knowing our soul takes time and it takes a lot of courage....it's definitely one of the narrow paths in life.
Peace to you ~