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Get Your PACI - You're Gonna Need It!

Updated: Nov 18




Being a Master Possibility Coach that helps women step into their own mastery and mission comes with a hefty price tag. What I mean, is that as a 6/2, I teach from experience. I've had a lot of experience....AKA 'emotional shitstorms' in my life that I've had to navigate through.


As we all know, 2020 has been it's own massive shitstorm....and it's also been a massive shiFtstorm for many.


In this article I'm going to share a simple and very effective way to allow your shitstorms to become 'shiftstorms'.


If you have worked with me, you know that my catch phrase is 'What else is possible?' as just that little question alone carries the power in it to change our perception....if we let it expand us!


The women that come to me for coaching, tell me that they want to learn how to be the 'Calm in the Storm' or have more 'inner peace'. One of the pillars that I teach from is learning to use our emotions as tools of awareness vs. being a tool of our emotions. Catchy right?! Yea, I thought so too - ;)


What we want though, we don't always get...especially with shifting our mental and emotional state....Here's why: Most people don't want to do what it takes to truly step into their own mastery.


Creating inner peace/mastery requires us to show up for ourselves in a new way,


it requires us to stand in our own authenticity and power. It requires us to tpay very close attention to where our focus is because where our attention goes, energy flows. It requires a death and rebirth process....you know those figures like Jesus, and many many others that we read about and worship but we often don't realize that it also applies to us as.....and nobody can do it for you - nobody.


The first step is learning to use our emotions as tools vs. being the tool.


How do we do that?


The PACI Method


1) (P)ay (A)ttention - What is coming up within me?

2) (C)uriosity - I wonder why this is coming up for me and what this is revealing about me?

3) (I)dentify - There is a belief and a need underneath every emotion


Paying attention to our emotions and what is coming up within us when an outside stimulus is triggering that emotion is #1. This is the tricky part because this is when most people will project the feelings that they don't want to feel because they are too painful to face. Remember that there is a belief under every emotion and to face these limiting and subconscious belief means to face the darkest and most unlovable parts of ourselves.


Paying attention and then #2 is getting curious, which allows us to take a step back and and become the observer. Observe the gift that life is trying to give us....the gift of awareness. 'I wonder' is one of the best ways to start a question because it opens up space to receive what it is that life is trying to show us.


#3 is Identifying the belief and the need that is fueling the emotion to come through.


This is the jackpot....the golden ticket!!


This is the first step we can take in repatterning the fabric of your life.


Check out my podcast HERE where I go deeper into the 3 steps in the PACI method above.


Love - Erin


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