Updated: Jan 14
If you are a parent, single mama, woman entrepreneur, teenager, etc....the #1 thing to cultivate in your life is Self Awareness if you want to feel fulfilled in ALL areas!
What is Self Awareness?
Using the most simple terms...Self Awareness is the ability to KNOW oneself....to understand one's feelings and emotions, to understand one's strengths and weaknesses, the desire to internally grow and face life's challenges, while embodying a grounded sense of confidence, and optimism.
SELF AWARENESS IS....THE ACTIVATION OF ONE'S LIFE!
Why is Self Awareness Important?
"Without the awareness of self, it is impossible to live a life that is truly fulfilling and to realize one's purpose in this lifetime."
First and foremost, the foundation of cultivating self awareness is the ability to identify ones own emotional state.
Understanding your baseline emotional state will help you to know when it shifts.
When you wake up in the morning, ask yourself this simple question - "How am I feeling right now?"
What Do I Do Next?
The first step is to just notice when your baseline emotional state shifts, ...to pay attention. Orient yourself to what is happening in your environment and within yourself.
Pause....and tune into your body.
Where do you feel this in your body?
If you have not tuned into your body like this before, it may take a little practice....so be patient with yourself.
Certain emotions are felt in different areas of the body: for example, if you are feeling it in your chest/lung area you could be feeling sadness or grief. If you are feeling it in your gut area, you could be feeling helplessness or fear, etc.
First Step: Pay attention to the shift
Second Step: Pause and tune into your body
Third Step: Bring in the energy of curiosity
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As you start to do this for yourself remember these words as you go through your day:
Under every negative behavior there is a need that isn't being met.
If you keep this in mind, you will start to understand your own emotions, needs and behavior in a new and more empowered way.
If you are a parent, perhaps you can get curious about your child when they throw a tantrum?
Or perhaps your boss when he/she acts out when they don't get their needs met?
The Energy of Curiosity is KEY in desiring to understand not only ourselves, but others as well.
When we can start to own our own emotional responses, learn to pause, tune in and get curious about our emotional state, we can then get curious about others behavioral responses as well.
Seeing beneath the behavior and getting curious about what is driving it, is necessary if we desire to form deeper connections with the people we cherish most.
We all have needs and as children we learned to meet those needs in whatever way worked....whether it was healthy or not. If these patterns aren't looked at more carefully they will continue to run our lives into adulthood.
Self Awareness is also realization that from birth, we have been programmed and conditioned.
How Have We Been Programmed?
Dr. Bruce Lipton states that for the first 7 years of life (some say up to 12 years) you are being programmed by the world around you, and that as an adult, 95% of the results in our life come from that programming of the subconscious.
If we didn't get our needs met as a child, (think safety, being heard/seen, accepted, autonomy, etc) and we haven't healed those places within us, that means that our adult response is that of a child...specifically the ages that our needs were not met.
Until we bring self awareness to these areas and heal them, we are just various child versions of ourselves walking around in an adult body.
Imagine that....how many children are out there masquerading as adults? Can you start to see just how important self awareness is and how critical it is as we step into 2021?
The good news is, no matter what experiences you have had in your life, and what your life looks like now....it can change!
I'm not going to lie to you, this takes work and not many people are up for the challenge, but if you are ready to dig in - your life can dramatically become more fulfilling, and purposeful. You can have the nurturing relationships that you desire, with your children, with your partner, your friends, and most importantly - yourself.
Disrupting your programming and realizing that everything you once knew to be true, may in fact not be true. This is a very hard pill to swallow and most people stop here.
The 2 Most Important Ingredients:
To start disrupting your own patterns and grow in this process of self awareness head HERE.
Self awareness is KEY ... and it takes nothing short of brave souls to step on this path.
Is it hard?
It can be.
Is it worth it?
I think so.
See you on the other side my friends!
Erin Esser is a, Speaker, Author, Master Possibility Coach and Mama who believes that life isn't a battleground, but a playground of possibility and it's in that state that self sabotage is transmuted into self mastery. -Join her in this mission!