HERetic by Erin Esser

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  • For the woman who keeps everyone calm at the holidays

Get through the holidays without turning back into the kid who keeps everyone calm

Audios and a worksheet you use before you go, in the bathroom when it gets to be too much, and after you say no... so you walk out still feeling like you. No three days to recover.

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SOUND FAMILIAR?

You walk in as you and leave as twelve

You're a grown woman with a whole life. But one comment at the table and you're managing every mood in the room again.

The dread starts in the driveway

Your shoulders are up by your ears before you even turn the car off. You haven't said a word yet.

You're watching everyone's mood

Who's had too much wine, who's about to snap, who needs a refill... and you haven't eaten.

It takes days to come back

You get home and you're wiped out. Short with your kids. Replaying every conversation in the shower.

HOW IT WORKS

See it, feel it, change it... right there in the moment

1

See it before you go

The worksheet walks you through what usually sets you off, so it doesn't catch you off guard this year.

2

Feel it in your body

When your chest gets tight, the audios walk you through butterfly taps and slow breathing until your body settles.

3

Change how you respond

You get a little space between the trigger and your answer... and you answer as the woman you are now.

You still decide. Nothing in here tells you whether to go, how long to stay or what to say to your mother. It helps your body feel safe enough that the choice is actually yours.

FOUR PARTS OF THE HOLIDAY

Before you go, walking in, in the hard moment and after

PART 1

Before you go

Fill out the worksheet a few days ahead so you know your triggers and your exits before you get there.

  • You leave with: your own plan, written down, ready before you walk in

PART 2

Walking in the door

Listen in the car before you go inside, and decide who you want to be in that room this year.

  • You leave with: a calmer body before the first hug or comment

PART 3

When it gets to be too much

Lock the bathroom door, put your headphones in and do the 3-Minute Bathroom Reset. Then go back out, or don't.

  • You leave with: a way to come back to yourself in three minutes

PART 4

After you say no

When the guilt hits on the drive home, the audio helps the younger you stop trying to fix it.

  • You leave with: a no you can stand behind without three days of guilt

WHAT'S INSIDE

Tools you use in the moment, not more homework

  • Left-Right Calming Sound to Slow Racing Thoughts and Settle Your Body: put your headphones in and the sound moves back and forth, left to right. Your mind gets something simple to follow, so the loop slows down and your body can settle
  • 3-Minute Bathroom Reset (For When It Gets to Be Too Much): butterfly taps and breathing you can do with the door locked
  • When the Guilt Hits After You Say No: for the car ride home, when you want to take it back
  • Plan Your Holiday Before You Go: a fill-in PDF for your triggers, your exits and what you'll say, so you're not figuring it out at the table

ONE HOLIDAY, TWO WAYS

From walking in tense to walking out still feeling like yourself

HI, I'M ERIN

Erin Esser

Erin was the responsible one in her family, the one who kept everybody okay. These days she stays in a hotel when she visits family... because that's the only way everyone has a good time.

She's coached women since 2016 with parts work: inner child, shadow work and See it, Feel it, Change it. Every tool in this kit is one she uses herself.

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Get the Holiday Nervous System Kit

Everything you need to get through the holidays as you, ready before your first family dinner.

Holiday Nervous System Kit

Digital kit, instant access

  • Left-Right Calming Sound to Slow Racing Thoughts and Settle Your Body
  • 3-Minute Bathroom Reset (For When It Gets to Be Too Much)
  • When the Guilt Hits After You Say No
  • Plan Your Holiday Before You Go (fill-in PDF)
  • Bonus audio if you buy in the first 48 hours

One payment

$27

USD, paid once, no subscription

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QUESTIONS

Ask me before you buy

Anything else? Email me at erin@erinesser.com

Do I need to know anything about the nervous system?

No. You press play and follow along. If you can breathe and tap your arms, you can do this.

What do I need?

Your phone, a pair of headphones and somewhere you can close the door.

How much time does it take?

The shortest audio is three minutes. The worksheet takes about twenty.

What if I'm not going home this year?

Good for you... honestly. Early on, not going can be the right call. The kit still helps with the guilt, the phone calls and the texts that come anyway.

How long do I have access?

It's yours to keep. Come back to it next holiday, or any time a family visit is coming up and you can feel your shoulders creeping up.

Can I get a refund?

Because it's digital, all sales are final. If something isn't working for you, email erin@erinesser.com and I'll help.

Walk in as you. Walk out still feeling like you.

Audios and a worksheet for before, during and after... ready before the first family dinner of the season.

$27 · digital kit